This article lets out a few tips on how to handle negative criticism
“The best way of removing negativity is to laugh and be joyous.”
Let us face the fact that the amount of negativity that envelopes us every day is much greater than the feeling of positivity and hope. No doubt that negative criticism hurts or pierces one’s heart. Be it at workplace, school/college or overall scenario, all of us at some point or other in our lives have been through this topsy-turvy tunnel of negativity. While positivity is mainly a matter of subjectivity, negative criticism on the other hand can ruin your day and topple your self-esteem.
It is not possible to stop the negative criticism from coming towards you but it is definitely possible for you to stay away from the effects of that criticism by exerting a control over your reaction and thoughts.
There will be a lot of criticism against you in terms of your behaviour, looks, personality, work, habits, etc. and not all of it would be correct. Hence check out a few tips below on how to handle negative criticism:
1) Think About It:
It is quite likely that the critique coming your way might be from a respectable and trustworthy source, a person for whom you have a lot of respect. Remember that a negative comment from your well-wisher means that something is actually going wrong. In that case, acknowledge what they’re saying and accept their honest assessment.Take some time to think over it and use it to improve yourself. Always remember that “A critic is the best admirer of work.”
If somebody passes a negative comment against you do not always take it to your heart. While it is impossible to not get angry or upset over it, do not be affected if you think it’s not true. For instance, if someone judges you for wearing makeup thinking that you are ugly in real life, don’t get disheartened. You know very well that you are already beautiful from the inside and makeup is just a confidence booster.
3) Stay Cool:
There will be times when your fury will know no bounds as a result of the negative criticism directed against you. You will feel like punching that person more than thousand times. But CONTROL! The more you get angry, the more they will be encouraged to continue the same with you, thinking that it is successfully affecting you and taking away your peace. Smile because it scares your enemies.
4) Give It Back:
Sometimes people underestimate us a lot thinking that we are meek and do not have the power enough to lash out. If you have good comebacks and an amazing sense of humour, you can always blend them with a piquant flavour of sarcasm to show that even you can retaliate. But remember not to overdo it because the more you speak, the more it will affect you.
5) Realise Your Worth:
Always remember that if you are good at something, negative criticism is sure to follow. There will be haters who would constantly try to pull you down. Not everybody you meet will be the admirer of your talent. But never doubt your own self because you are not here to impress people. Accept that you cannot make everyone happy.
6) Keep Going:
Harsh criticism from one person doesn’t serve to represent everybody’s point of view. So keep going and keep ignoring. Brush it off and don’t let it affect you in any way. If somebody says you are way too tall, it shouldn’t stop you from wearing heels the next time. Or if somebody says that lean boys do not look good, it should not deter you from pursuing your goal. Simply remove yourself from negative people and situation.
The best way to keep negative things out of our mind is by undertaking meditation. It helps to cleanse the mind off the impurities and helps to manage stress. It provides a positive outlook and helps to focus on good things in life.
8) Realise the Value of Negative Criticism:
Negative criticism is inevitable. Hence try to make the most of it by realising its importance in your life. It may sound contradictory but believe it or not, negative criticism helps us to improve ourselves and keep a check which regulates our behaviour and helps us to move forward. If you are hurt, you will come back even stronger than before. So negative criticism isn’t that bad after all.
While you feel alone in this fight, think of those celebrities who are always in the headlines for something or the other. Yes, there are a lot of them who are criticised either by media or haters on a daily basis.
Check out below how some of these celebrities respond to the negative criticism directed against them:
“We have a choice about how we take what happens to us in our life and whether or not we allow it to turn us. We can become consumed by hate and darkness, or we’re able to regain our humanity somehow, or come to terms with things and learn something about ourselves.”
“People will find anything about you and twist it to where it’s weird or wrong or annoying or strange. You have to not only live your life in spite of people who don’t understand you—you have to have more fun then they do.”
Even people who want to hate on me, they can’t even shut down the fact that I’m literally what everyone is talking about.”
You just have to be positive and truly ignore it. Never change who you are. Be happy for others, and be happy for yourself if you accomplished something you are proud of!”
“My experience yesterday in Poland was a great one. Thank you to everyone, including the haters, for the great reviews of the speech!”
“I think it’s great to be flawed. I am hugely flawed, and I like it this way. That’s the fun of life. You fall, get up, make mistakes, learn from them, be human and be you.”
Now we are hoping that you will handle all the negative criticism against you like a pro. Goodluck!