This article illustrates how success is just a term and not the ultimate determiner of the potential that lies within us
What is Success?
To speak plainly, success generally means “the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.” It is like scoring the much desired goal and moving ahead in your life earning fame and recognition. This definition of success is usually the one which most of us understand and believe while talking about the very word “success” in relation to life and life goals.
But is the above-mentioned definition perfect and flawless?
The answer is NO. Success definitely means the accomplishment of an aim you have envisioned in life but let me break the myth that “success” has no perfect or established definition. The description of success may differ from person-to-person. Every individual has a success story to tell. Entrepreneurs have different journeys and different success stories while an actor’s struggle and success story would be different. Not only this, success might have varied definitions even among the people belonging to the same category. For instance, the story of Shakira would be different from the success story of Lady Gaga or Madonna. Hence there is no perfect definition.
Why is Success just a term?
For most of us success is the ultimate destination. It’s like looking at things in complete extremes. If you succeed, you succeed…if you fail, you fail. There is no in between. Hence “success” has become more of a polarizing world. People generally fail to recognise that from failure to success, that is, the so called journey or mid-path is also equally worthy of being taken into the arena of success. Without our struggle, success would never sound better and greater.
Again, failing in life is not something that gives us the right of labelling ourselves or others as “failures.” As human beings, we generally fail to accept the fact that we are capable of doing some things successfully as much as we are capable of doing some things unsuccessfully. Success cannot be counted in concrete terms with the accomplishment or completion of just one task in life successfully. In fact, it definitely is an abstract quality that will be lifelong. You will have to compete for success as long as you breathe. It will come in various forms. There is no shortcut to success. And if it’s a shortcut, it’s definitely not success.
Is Success the Ultimate Determiner?
Well, the word success when used in connection with a person. firm or organisation definitely becomes a determiner of their calibre, potential or capabilities. But success is not the ultimate determiner. As stated above, success is not only about getting through a particular task successfully. It’s about preserving the essence of it with each passing day. For instance, suppose you have been rewarded and recognised as the best employee of your firm. It definitely is a success. But working harder even after earning this recognition and maintaining your position on the top is what counts as the ultimate success. Hence it’s a lifelong process.
Is it necessary to rate ourselves on the basis of success?
Yes, you can see yourself as a successful person after achieving some valuable goals in your life. But nobody speaks about those whose success doesn’t sound that loud. Does it mean that they are “failures” in their lives? Imagine that you are very good at cricket but you lost a match. Does it make you a failure or a bad player? Life is all about hits and misses. So rating ourselves just on the basis of the term “success” would be a very bad idea. Again, it would be detrimental to your mental health and well-being.
When can you say you are not “Successful?”
We feel that we are unsuccessful when we fail at a particular thing -an exam, a cricket match, a business deal, an interview, etc. But is that what makes us unsuccessful or failures in life overall? Of course, not! Then what makes us unsuccessful? As it’s rightly remarked by Winston Churchill, “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” Yes, it is the loss of zeal and giving up that actually accounts for failure in life. It’s okay to fail but it’s not at all okay to give up on things so easily. When you do this, do not even wait for a second to label yourself “unsuccessful.”
Your career is not your life
Some of us think that a successful career inadvertently means having a successful life. Yes, a happy and fulfilling career will definitely bring prosperity to your life but do not make the mistake of equating your career with life. In life, success assumes a different form. Success in life connotes to evolution- how you have evolved with time, how much you have improved, how much you have learnt from your past mistakes. It’s about how better a person you have become after all these years.
Below are a few definitions of success by some of the eminent personalities:
“Success in life could be defined as the continued expansion of happiness and the progressive realization of worthy goals.”
“Success is 1% inspiration, 99% perspiration.”
“I don’t believe in failure. It is not failure if you enjoyed the process.”
Thus the definition of success is varied and differs from individual to individual. All of us have different goals and desires. Hence our journeys to achieve that goal and emerge successful in life will also differ. Again, failing once or twice or so many times doesn’t define you as a ”failure”. It’s the loss of zeal and passion that makes even a successful person a complete failure despite achieving a lot of things. It’s not possible to achieve everything in one life. But the ability to stay happy with whatever you have managed to earn and achieve is what counts as the ultimate success. So stop tagging yourself as a loser and start writing your success story from today.